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□ Evening News reporter Xiao Bo reports

A young working mothers, pregnant record nine consecutive years, Parenting Diary, a total of more than one million words. Refuse Mathematical Olympiad, the selection of a small school job, never Shangfudaoban, playing games with his son every day ...... network called "tomato mother" and she chose a "win at the starting line," different way of education, focus on training his son small tomato emotional intelligence, happiness and anti-frustration ability. Right now, "tomato mother" blog hits more than one million, Google search terms to reach 30 million, and her popularity also reflects a lot of young parents to reflect on the ideas of parenting.

Parenting Diary nine years to attract one million hits

"Tomato mother" real name is Xu Ming, a securities company in Pudong. During the 2001 pregnancy, she established a "home" for the unborn baby in the cradle of the Internet - Chocolate Castle 2597, Block B.

"Check-B-I saw the dark shadow of the screen is only one round, and this is my husband eagerly asked the children do, I triumphantly list:? 'He was like a little tomato'." Refreshing humor The style has attracted many mothers clicks.

9 years, every night, "tomato" asleep after 20 minutes of codewords, so that a total of Parenting Diary of more than one million words, peace of mind parenting, education concept happy, lively parent-child story, but also to Hsu and small "tomato" into a family education network Reds. Not long ago, Shanghai Education TV specifically for recorded interviews of family education programs, focusing on family education Huangpu District Elementary School third emblem Ning special invitation "tomato Mom" to the school to share their experiences.

In fact, what really makes this concern is the mother of two things, the first is the classic story of the mother to give up, as the son of "tailored" living a fairy tale; the second thing is Hsu "do not take the unusual way" - not learn poetry and painting, not on the Mathematical Olympiad classes, fewer choices for primary job ......

Since the positive outlook among children write fairy tales

Why give his son "tailored" fairy tale it? Hsu said, "small tomato" hooked when read kindergarten Intermediate Altman, a slight "violent tendencies", Xu Ming initially bought a lot of the classic fairy tale book, want to move his son's attention. After hearing the results of "Snow White", "small tomato" her mother said: "The princess is also naughty, lazy and greedy, not obedient, almost dead, deserve it."

Son's reaction, so that "tomato mother" felt a lot of classic children's stories from the reality of modern life is very far away, so she began to follow the "small tomato" compiled daily life fairy tale, fairy tale hero archetype is "small tomato" and his best a child in the story, two children into a rat and a rabbit, which is foolishly Bibi series of stories. "Foolishly fled mind," "lose some weight to the moon" ...... a departure from everyday life story, add a little exaggerated, add points to imagine, "small tomato" listen and laugh often.

"Teach children how and other children through these stories, hoping to develop his kindness, positive outlook on life." Hsu said. "Tomato mother" of fairy tales as "Little Tomato" grew to a large class and opened the other series,banners. "Xx studio I wish th, and friends moms and their children are watching "tomato mother" grew up with the story.

Each "Tomato Story" has thousands of hits, Shanghai opened a special pre-school network "Tomato Story" column. Not long ago, Xu Ming's first book, "Happy Tomato," published by the young parents sought, recently, there are several Shanghai and in the field of children's magazines to find Ming Hui, wrote about her fairy tale.

Abandon schools, refused Mathematical Olympiad, remedial classes

When most parents to name their children into a nursery and purchase all school district room, Tuo Shuren, find the relationship, "tomato mom" approach seems a little offbeat. She does not give the child early education classes, let the child read the Mathematical Olympiad, even the "small tomato" There is a nearby kindergarten all the names grandmother, she give up on the grounds that into this well-known children kindergarten friends call every day, "very hard . " Pick tomatoes when elementary school, according to her is still "from the past" and "fewer jobs." She said:. "If you take a hard childhood in exchange for adult happiness, I would rather give children a happy childhood."

"Little Tomato" There are many students in the class on the outside of English, Mathematical Olympiad remedial classes, but the "tomato Mom" steadfastly refused, "Mathematical Olympiad child not interested, we do not expect him to be a mathematical genius, learning the key is to cultivate an interest, or else forever bad science. "In fact, each child," little tomato "is also writing" giving birth ", do the math careless, lazy when doing homework, but will generally be" eggplant mother "Art resolve out.

First grade, the day to go home, "tomato", said: "Mom, I will write a new word today, Emerson, to avoid the bar." Hsu checking his son a job, he is determined to master new words and asked: "Sunday and the children play football, happy? "" Happy. "" We write it down, okay? "" Little Tomato "readily agreed. "The best writing is to cultivate interest in writing, there is the desire to write the words would not scrape."

Parenting most emphasized emotional intelligence, happiness, the ability of anti-frustration

And now a lot of parental education in different ways, "eggplant Dad" "eggplant mother" in the end ready to "small tomato" develop into the kind of person?

Hsu said the immediate goal is to "belong in school achievement in the upper reaches upstream relationships, cheerful personality, healthy body." "Eggplant Dad" is the Datong high school language teacher, the couple for their children's education more consistent on the whole idea, but so far the development of small tomato is also in the "eggplant Dad", "eggplant mother" scenario range. In Hsu and her husband seems to score high with high emotional intelligence is better. Happy kids ability is more important than the ability of anti-frustration tutoring learned.

However, it does not mean do not pay attention to emotional intelligence scores. "Tomato mother," said the child's success in school is very important because most of the day students spend in school, if performance is poor, will affect fostering children's self-confidence. In the "eggplant Mom" It seems that self-confidence is very important, if a child of their own position is "I'm a good boy," that he is a good boy.

"Tomato mother" of education is not to the school counseling, to concentrate on school attendance, completion of teacher assignments. Probably because of the "small tomato" no distractions in school tuition, his school results ranked the top five classes. This is the "little tomato" they want to achieve, although the "tomato Mom" on his request is in the top ten, but the "small tomato" I hope he can be a "long," I hope more good scores, count to count go,and fell to the floor,giacconi uomo peuterey, he felt only hope to reach the top five, so I worked hard one.

Some children in the classroom knowledge is not very strong, but learned a lot of extracurricular stuff, maybe contest results will be very good,and so the investigation will, but the school's academic performance but not particularly desirable. Small tomato English scores consistently ranked first class, when the teacher recommended that he attend school competition, he Resurrection and go every time,hogan prezzi bassi, basically the last one, because he rarely know extra words, but "Tomato Mom "and do not care, she thought the child good grades in school, confident state is very good.

Xu Ming said: "Actually have to admit, a lot of things that is a byproduct of the results if your child grade point average, even poor, I heard other parents and their own children to play with you, they can rest assured it.?" And now, the results Well, cheerful and easy-going "small tomato" There are a lot of friends. Parents hear kids go "small tomato" house to play, usually say "Go."

Nightly parents accompany "small tomato" play WII

Yesterday afternoon, as usual, "little tomato" 4:30 after school, to "eggplant dad," the school about half an hour to do the job, and then play with several classmates, kicked around 5:40, 6:15 about home, "eggplant mother" has long been ready milk, fruit, after checking the "small tomato" job, to Emerson,tiffany collane, he completed the same day.

After dinner, "eggplant mother" unshakeable to accompany his son to play a WII SPORTS, then "eggplant Dad" with his son playing football or basketball game WII. "7:30, father and son went to take a shower, I wash their dirty socks in the next, incidentally listen 'eggplant students' conduct campus news broadcasts. Around 8:00," small tomato "bed.

Many parents pick up children from school after three sentences in school today naughty or nice? To class yet? What is today's job? "Little Tomato", said: "My mother would not ask these, each came home from school,Wang Wenfeng told reporters a, go in,woolrich scontati, my mother called me to wash their hands, and then eat the fruit, homework began playing cool."

20:00 and more, after the "small tomato" asleep, Xu Ming came to the computer to continue her hobby - Record son "tomato story."

She said: "I believe that all of my stick will be rewarded, all recorded, belonging to the children, but also their own, the intersection is a faithful record of our lives, more or less strangers to stay in many people's memories become a happy understanding. "

"Tomato mom" also had shaken anxiety

In the cradle of the Internet, there is always kindly remind parents Hsu: Your child's requirements are not too low? Children too, if you do not "force", how to grow? Even some parents said she was "stupid" and "due diligence."

About school choice,hogan contraffatte, Hsu had been shaken. "Pre-kindergarten, parents give their children looking at other intensive training, and some even made early education classes, when I was very worried." But later, Xu Ming have seen several reports of heavy burdens on students, children work too much, Weekend shuttle in more than cram, do not have time to play. She says she cares more about kids learn quickly not happy, there is no interest.

"When parents are very poor, do you think they are willing to let the children make up classes ah? They feel that people make a child,giacconi woolrich outlet, my child does not make the future of my children will not turn resentment I did not give him up?" Xu When Ming told reporters are big truth. "You do not talk about other people, in fact, I sometimes have a guilty conscience ah! Guilty grown tomatoes will feel that he was a child he asked me too, and makes him as good as people."

The original, "tomato Mom" will have a little anxiety. Xu Ming said: "Like us down so educational,woolrich giaccone, tomatoes should be very adaptable character, does nothing to embarrass himself embarrassed parents we euphemistically as follows:.. He will have all the time to make yourself unhappy capabilities" to a certain extent "eggplant mother" This humorous calm personality also passed on to the "little tomato."

"Tomato Mom" that children learn, especially in the primary stage, the most important is the ability to cultivate a self-learning. Today's kids are very smart, they are the reason why the late growing gap in learning, study habits because of the gap on.

"Little Tomato": Few jobs, I am very happy

Education expert commends "eggplant Mom": Stick thinking about education, in line with people-centered parenting

□ Evening News reporter Xiao Bo reports

Sharing activities in the field of family education, Jiang Wei Mei teacher asked, "small tomato" a few minor problems: "You've read in the school for three years, you complete a few sentences you think schools, teachers, learning, class, classmates. themselves are what are adjectives with the word. "

"Little Tomato" smiling, replied: "I am very happy,using threats,outlet hogan italia, because very few of our school work, our campus is very beautiful, the teacher is very nice,moncler giubbotti prezzi, very good, and very easy to learn the class to be 'hard', students to 'help'. that he can not 'wrong title fool'. "

Jiang teacher comments that the child's answer showed his good positive attitude, his school, teachers, learning, class, students as well as their identity.

Jiang teacher said, families with students, parents may wish to guide their children to do the following six sentences. First, let the children feel the campus is lovely; second, the teacher is amiable, his eyes look out positive people and things around, so kids will have a positive, sunny attitude; third, let the children feel that learning is fun, so he intrinsic motivation will play out; fourth, the class is warm. "Little Tomato," said the class should strive for, that he have high hopes for this class, there is also full of love; the fifth sentence should be friendly classmates. "Little Tomato" said to be helping, but also the meaning of friendship and mutual assistance. Finally, I should do it for myself. No longer fool the wrong question, but I have the ability, I was confident.

Jiang says that the best parents in life, the children's positive subtle guidance, so that it was found among the beautiful and wonderful life. Jiang said the teacher, students education is not the most important achievements and scores, but the culture of self-confidence, interest in learning, good habits and the ability to interact.

Schools views



Teacher: He is not particularly outstanding, but good character

Reporters yesterday linked to the "small tomato" primary schools, as "tomato mother" do not want to bring too much impact on the reported "little tomato" life, the newspaper respect their wishes, no public school name and "small tomato" real name. In the "small tomato" teacher's eyes, this is a not a particularly from the eye, is not particularly prominent child. Good grades,but another of her deep fasci, learning attitude, class actively speak,I decided to levy a voice dad, listen carefully, but his character, especially when faced with criticism of the performance has been outstanding teacher appreciation.

In the schools, "small tomato" is a good mood all day smiling pistachios, as math class representative, squadron commander of his day to count the number of math homework after the receipt to the teacher, in addition,peuterey junior, also receive weekly " Teams will be ten minutes,had wanted to go out to work, "the book, columns programs prepare students to take care of, such as a small poster. In most cases, the "small tomato" serious and responsible, but occasionally make mistakes. At this time, the teacher will criticize him. The teacher appears, many one-child is not criticism, even one not speak harsh words, and "small tomato" very humbly accept the teacher's criticism, after being criticized still very happy.

Lastly, it is "tomato mom" I hope the son of one of the ability to have - any time the ability to make yourself happy.

Expert views



Psychological experts: eggplant Mom education "people-oriented"

In the third primary emblem Ning family education event, Secretary-General of the Shanghai Association of School Mental counseling Jiang Wei Mei Hsu expressed appreciation for education.

Jiang Wei said the United States,fabbrica hogan, Xu Ming boot according to the child's health needs and future development, in line with the humanistic psychology in the spirit, it is people-oriented. "Tailor" the fairy tale is typically reflects this. Parental love is not to impose their will on the children, nor is accompanied by substance instead, but always pay attention to a child's development, according to certain guiding children's needs.

Chiang says that in order to grow up healthy and happy children, parents give their children three mental nutrition: love, respect and trust, and tap the positive side of the child in mind. "Tomato mother" is doing.

Education expert: parental responsibility is not to change the child

Zhu Liangjun, Qingpu District,orecchini tiffany, Deputy Secretary for Education, a full nine years, he insisted to study in Germany daughter Allison wrote a letter every day. The letter is more understanding of his own life, to reflect their views on education, and a deep sense of fatherly love.

Yesterday, Zhu Liangjun Secretary said in an interview, not a tomato mom educators, but can adhere to thinking about education, according to the child's growth and constantly improve the dressing way of family education, to educate their children is very beneficial. He believes that parental responsibility is not to change the child, but on the basis of the child's personality, to guide him to better development.